Also, a free sample "Mom's book" of 100 pages from The Thinking Tree! A great thing to print out in the summer and start working through to help you relax while prepping for next year. :)
Advice from Amazing to Zany!
A - Admire. I have heard it said that what our kids need from us the most is to simply admire what they do. Appreciate them as people and what they are accomplishing.
B - Baby steps. Too often, I am so close to my kids as their mom AND teacher that I don't see progress like someone who doesn't see them at every moment. Embracing baby steps in what I teach them and in how they grow and for myself as I build good habits is crucial for me. I am too often discouraged if I don't remember this important bit of advice.
C - Curiosity. Being curious about things myself has often been the best moments of learning. Even if my girls aren't curious about what I'm interested in, they see me learning, and I can see that inspires them, and it helps them want to follow their own curiosity.
E - Energize. What do you need to do to recharge? Most moms (all?) are low on energy and finding time alone or doing other things we need to recharge is difficult, but not impossible! If we aren't taking care of ourselves, we can't take care of the people around us. The dust and dirty floor aren't a priority over your own physical and mental health!
|The cat demonstrating the correct way to relax in a busy household.|
G - Grace. Grace means undeserved favor. How often do we need someone to love us or care about us when we are NOT lovable at the moment? As home educators and moms, we especially need to remember this as we teach our children. Kids can begin to feel that they have to have everything perfect for us to be happy with them (in their school or in chores) and remembering to actively show them that they are loved and appreciated by us, no matter what, is possibly the most important thing we can do for our kids.
H - Hungry. Almost always when the kids (or me) are cranky or unable to focus, it's a sign that food needs to happen. Kids can ask for food when they are bored as well, but for the most part, it is amazing to see how a meal or snack can make an otherwise boring or tedious assignment more enjoyable. Our best times of learning seem to be right after a meal or when baking is involved.
|Gluten-free donuts that we made the other day brought a smile to everyone's face.|
I - Interest. Following an interest is the best way to learn something! This is true for children and adults. If we are interested in something, then we can learn about it! Our minds want to soak it in, and remember when our curiosity is sparked and an interest grows. Kids don't always know what they are interested in when you ask them (or they don't think what they are interested in would be approved of so they won't say) so it's our job to observe and not criticize the things they are interested in!
|This was a little double selfie I discovered on my camera along with a lot of silly faces as well.|
L - Lemons. If life gives you lemons, make lemonade. I have noticed how much happier and healthier we are when I make fresh lemonade sweetened with Stevia. Winter sicknesses were reduced when I kept this up! The way I make it is by using a citrus juicer to squeeze 8 lemons (cut in halves) for every gallon of water. The juicer was from Target, and the strainer was a plastic dollar store purchase, and I choose stevia that doesn't have tons of fillers in it. Sweeten to your own taste and drink with a straw to protect your teeth. It takes 15 minutes or less, and the kids like helping!
M - Memories. Taking pictures or scrapbooking or writing funny quotes by your kids can start to feel like just something else on the already huge list to-do, but however you choose to record your memories, it's really important to do so! As mothers often are told, "They grow up so fast." And they do. Capture the memories of those special little everyday things, and it will not only help you appreciate the moment and focus on why we do what we do, but give you something to look back on as well.
|Speaking of capturing memories! My littlest, the 5-year-old wanted a haircut the other day. It was kind of spontaneous, and I just did it on the spot! She told me exactly how long she wanted it.|
|Her blond hair is less and less blond as she grows older, and all those light ends are now off! I think she might be like her Daddy who had blond hair like hers until he was about 13 when it turned as dark as mine!|
|She is loving her new style, and it fits her active personality so well!|
N - Notice. When I start feeling stressed or can't see the forest for the trees, it helps me when I slow down, unplug, and notice what is around me. Notice the small things that I can appreciate or that make me happy. Notice my beautiful girls and take the time to actually look at them and enjoy the moment rather than rushing or being distracted.
|I'm afraid that I need this reminder a bit too much.|
|Peaches. I rest my case.|
Q - Quit. Don't quit what's good but DO quit the bad! Seriously, if it's not working, if that book is torture, if that scheduled activity or class is stressing everyone out, just quit! There is too much that we could do that would work great to spend time on the stuff that we hate.
R - Read aloud. I've heard so often about how important reading to your kids is and to not stop reading to them even when they can read on their own! But my advice doesn't come from the science of it or the impersonal recommendations, but from my own memories. Hearing my Mom read was by far the most influential part of my school. I wanted to read aloud as well as she did! I wasn't great at it either, and as a teen, I practiced reading aloud on my own because I wanted to be as skilled at it as my mom was. Plan silly putty or drawing for your kids while you read aloud so the wiggly ones don't drive you crazy. If you really don't like reading aloud, then you can all listen to books on CD together!
|Reading aloud can also be a restful time for moms. It doesn't have to be "another thing to do," but a time to rest and recharge. Reading that same picture book for the 100th time might be a blessing in disguise for the tired mom.|
S - Surprise. Often, our goal is to create a school and home routine that works smoothly and is predictable, which is really helpful, but kids love an element of surprise. A normal school day can be transformed when we announce it's time for school and hear the groans (yes, this happens) and then say that for math we are going to make shapes with marshmallows and toothpicks. Or perhaps we clear out the back of the car and do our school in there (with the cat.) Or build a fort with blankets and read in the fort instead of at the table or couch. Maybe sitting in the tree house for our math or doing a poetry tea time is that element of surprise that can brighten everyone's day! Usually,the little surprises are remembered the fondest of all.
|I didn't have a picture of the most recent time we did this, but about 3 times a year, we end up having fun with marshmallows and toothpicks! It is always well received.|
U - Unlearn. Homeschooling is not like school. Even if your homeschool is really structured and traditional, it's not going to look exactly like a classroom, and it shouldn't. Classrooms are designed the way they are to accommodate one teacher with how to manage dozens of children. My Mom (who homeschooled me and was a teacher before having kids) always said that in college when you study to become a teacher, they don't teach you HOW to teach -- you learn crowd management. Now unless you have 20 children all the same age at home, you aren't going to use the same skills as a homeschooler that teachers in a classroom need to use. Most people who begin to homeschool have to unlearn what school looks like as they try things in their own homes with their own kids and see what books and methods work the best.
V - Vacations and Visits. I used to feel guilty for the time off from our regular school that we would take. Even though we schooled year-round and took time off at holidays and birthdays instead of the summer, I couldn't seem to relax fully to enjoy the vacation times that we did take. My advice is to create those times of rest and field trips and visits so that you can get a break and NOT feel guilty about it! Children are learning all the time and visiting museums and extended family and road tripping and so on aren't things that you should feel guilty over. Spend the time modeling your own curiosity and following your own interests! Let the kids be bored and have to get creative on their own! Just don't worry about the school you aren't doing when you are taking a vacation.
W - Wonder. This goes along with being curious but is slightly different because it doesn't necessarily have a conclusion. I think it's important for our kids to know that we know we don't know everything! I can wonder about something aloud and that can spark a conversation or interest or curiosity or exploration. I can wonder what a word means or wonder at the beauty of the moonlight reflecting off a pool as we go on a walk before bed. I don't want to create a culture in our home of memorizing and knowing all the facts -- but rather a culture of wondering about the questions.
X - Exceed expectations. When our kids hug us, hug them more back. When they express their love respond with a greater amount. However that works well between you and your children and their distinct love languages, teaching our children without a strong healthy connection is going to break down at some point if they feel that it's more on their end than ours. They need to know we love them no matter what. And our world these days, with so many distractions and so much selfishness being prized, it's a hard place to move away from and into truly paying attention to the people we are closest to and exceeding their expectations with our attention.
Y - Yellow. I didn't used to like that color as much as some of the other colors, but I've come to realize how happy and bright it is. I could give advice about not yelling, or remembering what it's like to be young, but I'm just thinking about the color yellow. I'm sitting by some yellow curtains that I have in my dining room that make the room feel brighter and sunnier. Sunshine helps my mood, and it's important to know what can brighten our days even if it's as simple as yellow curtains. Recognizing what brightens the day of our children is important as well. I will hear the middle one say she is having the worst day ever, and often just a little time with me (and possibly some chocolate together) will brighten her up again. I can give her a hug and fill her love tank back up again, and she's ready to run off and play some more.
|Or yellow yarn all over the little ones head! This picture can brighten anyone's day. ;)|
Being a Mom and homeschooler for me is living life in front of and with my kids. It's being real and imperfect and forgiving and asking for forgiveness and helping them grow into their full selves of who God created them to be as individuals. It's a journey without a solid destination yet, like a guide helping an explorer discover where he wants to go, but the destination for the guide is less important than the experience of the journey and the feeling at the end of it.
For a look back at the alphabet chalkboard-themed school, follow the links below.
A starts with A
B is for Butterfly
C is for Cookie
D is for Dragon
N for Noel
Oh for O
Alphabet review and summer fun and learning
Y and Why